Yes, AJ vs 44 is not a bad beat, it's a race to see who does win the hand. The pair being a slight favorite. If you are the favorite then bad luck you didn't win the race.

Although I do not get the example of complaining about Chess. Especially as Chess is an open game. Both players see everything and can figure out what they are doing and the opponent is doing. In poker you have, a closed game, incomplete information as you can not see all of your opponents cards.